Introspection Is Critical
A great movie line, from a very funny movie named Ferris Bueller, is “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” While Ferris may be a character from a movie, the personal philosophy expressed in this quote is no joke. Considering the pace at which our modern world moves, we can easily fill the hours of the day buried in action, constantly connected to the outside world by technology but losing touch with our inner selves. With a world of academic and practical knowledge literally at our fingertips, sometimes the most elusive information is knowledge of self. It is important to take time, now and again, to sit in silence and be alone with ourselves. When we take time to reflect on who we are, where we are, what we are doing and where we are going; we regain our center. We find a place of peace among the hectic, ever changing situations in our lives. A life lived on impulse and reaction will be haphazard at best. When we simply “do” without thinking we can easily find ourselves caught in a loop. We will find ourselves bouncing back and forth between things we could have done better and things we want to do next. The past cannot be changed and the future cannot be predicted. All we can control is the present, and some quiet reflection can help get us back to ourselves and this moment. This is where we are our most effective selves.
Introspection – Look Within Yourself To See More Clearly
Parents: We must practice introspection ourselves. While our children may be the most important people in our lives, if we are not taking care of ourselves we lose our ability to effectively care for them. We must also encourage our children to spend time evaluating their mental and emotional processes; with careful direction to focus on the things that are within their control. Proper introspection is a learned behavior and we need to practice this ourselves in order for our children to learn it from and with us.
Teens: Life is about balance. The best way to achieve balance is by taking the time to examine yourselves periodically. Examine where your time and energy are being spent, and where you may adjust these things to better accomplish all the things you need to. Spend time reflecting, but focus on what you may be able to actually improve. Dwelling on mistakes is not what introspection is about, instead it should be a means to decide what you can do now to improve your future.